Nov 202012

Choose positive energy and acceptance

All your spiritual questions answered…. imagine the calm of

an open state of mind that can relax with paradox and ambiguity.

Of many ways to the one …try Sant Mat ( Teachings of the Saints)… teaches to focus and give love and thanks to that which gives us breath, with all your heart, all your soul, all your mind.  Find a parable and make it your repetition to repeat when ever your mind gives way to it. IE.-  thankyouagainforgivingmethischancetosaythankyouagainforgivingmethischancetosaythankyou

A mantra is that type of  tool to create your focus. A sacred verbal formula repeated in prayer.”the word”  A mantra is a sound, syllable, word, or group of words that is considered capable of “creating transformation” (cf. spiritual transformation).  A good example in Hebrew….

V’ahav’ta eit Adonai Elohekha b’khol l’vav’kha uv’khol naf’sh’kha uv’khol m’odekha.
And you shall love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your might.

In Sanskrit ..repeat and chant …… Radha Soami (Swami)…..  Lord of the Soul

Om or aum  (written universally as ) is a mystical Sanskrit sound of Hindu origin, sacred and important in various Dharmic religions such as Hinduism, Buddhism and Jainism. It is said that A represents the waking state. U the dream state and M the state of deep dreamless sleep. the fourth state, sounds in the resonance following M.

In Arabic (الله اكبر)   Grammar: phrase; 2 words;  Allahu Akbar……… ‘God is the Greatest’

In Christian 
Our Father which art in heaven,

Our Father-Mother God, all-harmonious,

Hallowed be Thy name.

Adorable One.

Thy kingdom come.

Thy kingdom is come; Thou art ever-present.

Thy will be done in earth, as it is in heaven.

Enable us to know, — as in heaven, so on earth, — God is omnipotent, supreme.

Give us this day our daily bread;

Give us grace for to-day; feed the famished affections;

And forgive us our debts, as we forgive our debtors.

And Love is reflected in love;

And lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil;

And God leadeth us not into temptation, but delivereth us from sin, disease, and death.

For Thine is the kingdom, and the power, and the glory, forever.

For God is infinite, all-power, all Life, Truth, Love, over all, and All.

By the merit I accumulate from practicing generosity and the other perfections,

May I attain Enlightenment in order to benefit all living beings.

Takes Wellness Willpower…   opens your heart

May 312011






For Children – Emotional Intelligence Means Being Smart with Your Feelings
By Josh Freedman – 24th September 2010
This article is written for children to read or for an adult to read to a child.
When I was a kid, no one taught me about feelings.   Even when I took psychology in college I still didn’t learn why sometimes I felt angry or sad or worried or happy — and that I had a choice about my feelings.  I noticed that I had different feelings, and other people did too.  I noticed that sometimes I could get more of what I wanted by using the feelings that matched the situation, but a lot of the time it seemed like feelings were something that just happened to me.
How about you? Have you learned much about your feelings?  How have you learned that?
Do you feel in charge of your feelings, or does it seem like they’re in charge of you?  Are there some feelings that are easier for you to understand, but others that are more confusing?
Almost accidentally, I started working in a job where I was teaching people about feelings, so I had to learn a lot!  I read, talked to work friends, and paid much closer attention to my own and others’ reactions.  I’ve enjoyed this learning about emotional intelligence and it’s helping me be happier, stronger, and accomplish more, so I want to share some of the ideas with you.
Emotional intelligence” means being smart with feelings. Emotional intelligence allows us to make good decisions and work well with others.
What is Intelligence?
Some people have not heard about emotional intelligence; it’s pretty much like other forms of intelligence.  So what is “intelligence”?  Someone who is intelligent is able to gather information and use it to solve problems. For example, if someone is smart about math, what can they do well?  They pay close attention to numbers, and are accurate.  Then they use that information to solve math problems (such as how to divide fractions).
Pretty much the same is true for emotional intelligence. People who are smart with emotions notice and can accurately describe feelings. They can use feelings to solve problems (such as how to be a good friend).
Why does Emotional Intelligence Matter?
A few years ago, a work friend of mine, Anabel Jensen, and I, asked students how learning about emotions helped them.  Here are a few of the answers from kids:
I felt more included.
I felt less alone.
I learned how to listen to people.
I learned how to be a better friend and to ask my friends to be better friends.
We were working together to make everybody’s life better.
I felt more in charge of my own feelings.
How does that sound to you?
Emotional Intelligence Helps Children be Smart About Feelings
In the last few years, a lot of research has been conducted to measure how emotional intelligence skills help people.  The research, and our experience teaching about emotions, says that
The skills of emotional intelligence help young people have less, and more:
Would you like less of these? And more of these?
My sister and I were playing and having fun, but then she got really annoying and… well, here I am back in time out.I’m bored.  I KNOW there is a lot to do, but I just can’t find the energy to do anything. I wish my friends would stop leaving me out of the game at school, but I don’t know how to get them to include me.I have lots of really good ideas, but sometimes kids don’t listen to me because they say I am too bossy.  But their ideas are boring.A lot of times I KNOW the answers on the test, but I just can’t think of it right then. I’m happy because I have lots of good friends and I can always talk to them. When kids are doing something wrong or dangerous, I am able to stop them — or at least walk away and not get involved in bad behavior.Sometimes I have bad moods, but I can get myself out of it and try again. I hardly ever have fights with my parents about homework because I’ve gotten good at doing it. My brother is sometimes annoying, but I know how to work around that so we have fun together.
Some Questions About Feelings
Is there one of the stories that you especially want to have more often?
Can you think of other ways being smarter with feelings would help you and others?
Is there one of the stories that you experience too often?
Can you think of other problems that you could solve if you were smarter with feelings?
How Do Children Improve Their Emotional Intelligence?
The best news about emotional intelligence is that it’s something EVERYONE has and everyone can improve.  Maybe it’s not something you’ve given much attention, or maybe you’ve already learned a lot, but in any case you grow in this.  I call this “growing on the inside.”  On the outside kids grow in obvious ways (like getting taller).  What does it mean to grow on the inside?
Can you notice how you’ve already grown a lot on the inside?  For example, when you were little, you probably were more selfish and less careful than you are now.  Maybe you’ve learned to think a little more before you act, or to notice when you’re feeling tired and take care of yourself better?  Sure, maybe another kid or an adult is even better at some of those things, but you’ve grown — which shows you that you can.  Do you want to grow on the inside even more?
This is a serious question.  If you don’t actually WANT to be more emotionally intelligent, you are not likely to do it.  On the other hand, if you go back to the two lists, above, and you want less of the “left” and more of the “right,” then you do want to grow — and you can.
Emotions Are Messages for You
I work for an organization called Six Seconds.  We’re called “Six Seconds” because of the way emotions work in our bodies.  Suppose you’re playing and you break something you like.  Here’s what happens in your brain:
The first ¼ second:  You begin to pay attention and notice something happened.
Second ¼ second:  Your brain begins to decide this is a problem, and produces a bunch of new chemicals.
Next ½ second:  The chemicals go flowing into your brain and start going into your blood.  These chemicals are messengers causing a whole bunch of different reactions in you (such as, tightening certain muscles, focusing your attention, making you tear up, changing the way you’re breathing).
Next 5 seconds:  The chemicals continue to flow through your blood and go everywhere in your body.  The emotion messenger chemicals cause different cells in your body to produce new chemicals — so they ripple through you expanding their effect.
After six seconds, the original chemicals are almost all gone.  They’ve delivered their messages and you are now reacting to the mistake of breaking that item.  Maybe you’re crying and sad, maybe your angry and wanting to blame, maybe you’re shocked and still, maybe you want to run away.  Your reaction depends on how you’ve learned to deal with this flood of chemicals.
But here’s something amazing:  Those original feeling chemicals are now gone.  If you continue to feel sad/mad/afraid/hurt — whatever — you are actually choosing to re-create more and more of the feeling chemicals.  You don’t HAVE to keep reacting.  You’re reacting because that’s what you’ve learned to do.  You can learn a different way of reacting.
Everyone has these chemicals, and each feeling chemical carries both a message and some chemical power.  Feelings are information and energy.  As we become more emotionally intelligent, we get better at “reading” the messages and we get to use the energy to move us forward in a useful direction.
Three Steps for Feeling Smarter About Feelings
At Six Seconds, we have a way of practicing emotional intelligence that uses three steps:
1. Notice your reactions.
We call this “Know Yourself” because we want you to tune in and pay close
attention to what’s happening inside you.
2. Take charge of your responses.
This step is called “Choose Yourself” because you have a lot of options
– which will you select?
3. Decide what’s really important.
“Give Yourself” is the final step because now you’re thinking not just
about you, but what you want to give to others and the world.
These three steps are not always easy, but we’ve found that (just like learning anything) when you start practicing, you get better and better at it.  Usually we show people three steps in a circle.  Once you’ve done any of the steps, it makes the next step easier.  Then you can keep repeating the steps over and over until you are really clear about what you want and how to move toward that.
For the next few days, notice yourself in these three steps.  Do you find certain steps easier, harder?  Do you do some of the steps only in certain situations?  Maybe you follow the steps carefully when you’re with some people, but not so carefully when you are with others?
Use this chart to check your progress.  It gives examples what you might think, feel, and do if you are not practicing the steps of EQ…. and what you might think, feel, and do if you ARE practicing each step:
What you say if you are not doing this.  Are you putting the three steps in action? What you say if you are doing this a lot ->
Feelings just happen, I Have no idea why. Know Yourself:Notice your reactions. I can clearly see the sequence of events that lead to my feelings.
Act first, think later…I don’t have a choice. Choose Yourself:Take charge of your responses. I have choices about how to respond, I don’t need to react without thought.
I don’t think about others or the world, I’m just focused on what I want. Give Yourself:Decide what’s really important. I am connected to others and our world, and am committed to doing my part.
You As A Scientist
At Six Seconds, we teach teachers a process for working with students on emotional intelligence.  It’s called “Self-Science” because we want students to use the skills of a scientist to learn about themselves.  A scientist notices.  When something goes as expected, she notices that… and when something goes differently than planned, she definitely pays attention!  Not with frustration or disappointment, but with curiosity.  The scientist’s most powerful tool is the question.
Scientists are always saying:  “I wonder….”  So I encourage you to try that out — to be like a scientist observing yourself. Noticing your reactions and choices is a powerful way of developing emotional intelligence.   In fact, by paying close attention to the way you’re following these steps, you’ll be working on step 1!  What are your emotional intelligence strengths?  Where do you get stuck or have trouble?  Practice observing yourself as a Self-Scientist — you’re on your way to increasing your emotional intelligence! Back to top

May 242010

willpower brain                       WILLPOWER

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Synonyms :          continence, restraint, self-command, self-containment, self-control, self-discipline, self-government, self-mastery, self-possession,  will, energetic determination.


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“The fear of the unknown is the beginning of wisdom”

Love is not only the beginning of wisdom; it is wisdom of the highest order.

Concentrated Attention is the key that unlocks all stores of wisdom, of truth and of spirituality.

 Will Power

Think of Will Power like religion, any religion, this is the inner experience of the individual.

To get to that experience, you must leave the outer world, in thought at least, and go within yourself.  Willpower is another word for meditation.

How does one go inside?

By detaching from the outer or sense world and withdrawing your attention upon something inside your mind.

This appears simple enough, and is the method of acquiring all willpower training and religious experiences—leaving the outer world and entering the inner world of consciousness.

Concentrating the attention upon something inside of one self is the way to all willpower development and spiritual experiences.

Methods differ—so will the experiences differ.


The mind is a slave of the senses and sensual pleasures.  Concentrate your attention, to keep the mind steady in between your eyes and brain and not let it come down.

The purpose is attaching yourself to your inner sound (a gift of your mind).

This sound keeps your mind detached from your senses and where willpower develops.

Now the mind is dominating the soul, and the mind itself is dominated by the senses (sight, feeling, touch, taste, hearing and sensual pleasures).

With the practice of concentrative attention we have to reverse the whole process, so that the soul dominates the mind, and the mind dominates the senses.

That is the purpose of developing willpower.  Walk On.   ThankYouForGivingMeThisChanceToSayThankYou…………

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